Unfair, unkind, untrue and ubiquitous
March 8, 2013
Unfair, Unkind, Untrue and Ubiquitous
The abuse of a person (or animal) generally takes place behind closed doors. This happens at home, at work, at school, etc. At core, the perpetrators are cowards, which is demonstrated by their choice of prey. They take on those who are smaller and weaker, and they inflict the torment where it can’t be heard, seen or stopped. And there are many forms of abuse that are not physical, but extremely destructive.
Abusive relationships are largely invisible to the uninitiated.
The uninitiated have not been touched by this “other cancer” which is the fastest growing social plague on the planet.
The uninitiated think they don’t know anyone to whom this is happening.
The uninitiated think it won’t happen to them.
The uninitiated think they are immune because they are accomplished, intelligent, sophisticated, etc.
Case in point? Bernard Madoff’s victims. Case closed.
There are reasons for all of this. For starters, most forms of abuse remain hidden for a long time. The perpetrator maintains a mask of sanity outside the bedroom or boardroom and the target denies it, tries to hide it or can’t talk about it. In the case of animals, they are simply disposed of before their condition points to the culprit. The acts themselves—whether mental, emotional, professional, sexual, spiritual, verbal or financial—take place behind closed doors.
Like many diseases, abuse can go on for some time before the symptoms are serious enough that they show up.
For example, can you tell by looking that:
- A woman was verbally savaged or smacked by her husband this morning?
- A teenaged girl was raped and sodomized by her stepfather last night?
- A young wife has no money and is being blocked in her efforts to get work?
- A teenaged boy is tormenting the family pets in the house next door?
- A widow in your church has just been conned and lost her life savings?
- A toddler has cigarette burns all over her back?
- A coworker is not allowed to leave her house without her husband’ permission?
- The couple across the street are starving a dog to death in their basement?
Identifying the perpetrators and targets of abuse is based on a preponderance of patterns. That is, a woman who appears tired or withdrawn once in a while is not necessarily a victim of abuse. Likewise, a man, who seems a little more on edge than normal is not necessarily a perpetrator of abuse.
The key to recognizing abuse rests on there being a number of indications of some duration and intensity. Abuse is a pattern of behavior that actually becomes a lifestyle. It leaves clues the trained eye can recognize. Often a child or animal in a violent household will show signs of abuse before an adult.
Look around you today. Really look. What do you see?
Once you get your arms around this, you will be empowered to better protect yourself and those you care about. And hopefully, you won’t look the other when you see someone at risk.
Anna Moss
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Half a trillion a year to treat psychopaths
February 28, 2013
Half a Trillion a Year to Treat Psychopaths
Psychopaths are by definition afflicted with organic brain damage that is permanent, progressive and irreparable. In other words, they are mentally ill forever, they get worse over time and there is no cure or treatment for their condition.
The nature of their condition can be described as lack of empathy or incapacity for compassion. In other words, they have no conscience. They are dangerous in the extreme. They cannot be made benign. They are parasitical and predatory. Psychopaths do unspeakable things to babies, children, animals, elders, spouses, coworkers, neighbors, etc.
For the most people, this condition and the consequences it unleashes wherever it exists are impossible to imagine. It is beyond awful to be on the receiving end of it as any partner, family member or co-worker can attest.
In the course of “sorting it all out” for myself, I began to see patterns at work in my husband’s pathological behavior. (It is one thing to read a book about psychopathy or observe psychopaths in clinical settings, it is something else entirely to be with one 24/7. There is no putting the book down, or getting “rotated out” after a certain amount of time as is done where psychopaths are studied.)
The behavior patterns are the beginning of major revelations and they are crucial for taking stock. The human equation in a pathological relationship contains patterns that reveal character and likely behaviors, if you know what to look for and how to connect the dots.
- In perpetrators, you see callousness, shallowness, promiscuity, parasitism and predation–and a strong drive to control.
- In targets, you see compliance, tolerance, forbearance, kindness and high willingness to trust–and relational illiteracy.
Relationship statistics show that very few people possess any knowledge of the universal warning signs of relationships that turn. They also lack a healthy self image. This is a recipe for interpersonal disaster. These two conditions can come together in a deadly combination when a psychopathic predator enters the picture.
Psychopaths aren’t the only abusive individuals on the loose in society, there are a number of personality disorders (narcissism, sociopathy, anti-social, borderline personality) that wreak havoc on others, but psychopaths are the root cause of the most damage and worst suffering in the world.
According to one of the leading authorities on psychopathy, Robert Hare, PhD, the US is now spending in excess of 460 billion dollars a year to study, treat and repair the damage done by psychopaths. The Canadian prison system where Hare worked was spending huge sums trying to develop treatments for psychopaths. Hare finally called a halt to this when advances in neuroscience proved his theory that they are permanently and irredeemably damaged. They cannot be cured or even made benign. Those who have received extensive study and treatment simply become more cunning and diabolical.
Before the phenomenal advances in neuroscience of the last two decades, researchers used to be confounded by the psychopaths seemingly stubborn resistance to change. No matter how much treatment they received, their baseline pathological behaviors and responses did not improve or even stay the same, they got worse. Neuroscience has shown that their failure to respond to treatment is not willful, it’s organic. Psychopaths will never change because they can’t, their brains are damaged.
The next question that comes to mind might well be: if they’re hopelessly dangerous but not treatable, what should we do with them?
Every community in every country would do well to have a serious discussion about this, make a plan and execute it with liability for outcomes appropriately assigned.
Anna Moss
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What “they” look for
January 17, 2013
What ‘They’ Look For
This applies to every kind of relationship: personal, political, professional…
Anna Moss
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The animal lover
January 4, 2013
Why lawyers deserve their rep
January 3, 2013
Why Lawyers Deserve Their Bad Rep
Red Flags Rating: Red for Pathological
This is from Reuters:
(Reuters) – The lawyer who filed and then quickly withdrew a $100 million legal claim against the state of Connecticut in the wake of the deadly Newtown elementary school shooting said on Wednesday his motive in the case is to prevent future school massacres and that he continues to investigate evidence for a future claim.
New Haven, Connecticut-based attorney Irving Pinsky, appearing on CNN, said his job is “to stop this happening again.”
Read more here.
This card-carrying lawyer thinks a law or a lawsuit will stop the behavior of deranged persons–such as shooting up a schoolroom of first graders. Is this a publicity stunt or what?
This notion would be ludicrous if not for the agony. Laws don’t stop the lawless.
(This is why so many women are assaulted and murdered after getting protection orders. The deranged do not pay attention to protection orders. These pieces of paper generate revenue for the court system–that’s all they’re good for. They are not just a waste of the woman’s time and money, they are a serious and sometimes deadly provocation to whoever is threatening her.)
The Futility of Laws for the Lawless
As discussed in multiple posts about the most deranged (psychopaths), these creatures consider themselves above the law. Any judge or lawyer who does not possess this fundamental knowledge about criminal psychology should go back to school or go home and live with his mother.
Pinsky’s story gets a big BS call from me. He is out for bucks. He is just another lawyer jacked up on his position who sees an opening to make some money on the unutterable suffering that began that awful day in December.
The only word I can use to describe the behavior of someone trying to get their grubby hands on 100 million dollars from the state coffers because of the massacre of 20 children is GROTESQUE. I would say “shame on him,” but I would be wasting my breath because people who pull this sort of thing can’t feel shame. They will do anything they can to get what they want.
Maybe someone in the Connecticut Bar will address this. But then, maybe not. This sort of thing feeds the system.
I’m sure there will be more where this came from. We shall see.
Getting Real About Evil
It’s truly disturbing (and also very telling) to see how parasites and predators react when someone is stricken. Lawyers aren’t the only ones who do it. Have you ever seen a mortician in action? Everyone with some “force” of office is poised to jump down the throat of the next innocent victim that passes by.
The remedy will only come when enough people see it for it is and remove it. You can’t get rid of evil by passing laws against it or impeaching it or censoring it or locking it up in prison or sending it to anger management classes or putting it on parole. You get rid of evil by removing it before it hurts someone else.
Anna Moss
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The mindset that will save you
January 2, 2013
The Mindset That Will Save You
Red Flags Rating: White for Good [4 of 5]
Distraction is something the deranged need to keep from facing themselves. They are high-maintenance in that regard. Their distractions take many forms. Those of them who operate behind the scenes also use distraction to keep us from figuring things out too fast.
From my observation, I’m convinced that anything surrounded by a bunch of hype and hoopla serves their agenda. And all of it points away from critical thinking, connecting the dots and so forth.
What most people, even those who sense something is wrong, have not yet wrapped their heads around is the horrifying fact that there are things being done that they cannot believe anyone would do. Many of them will never wake up because they are apathetic or brainwashed (and probably don’t realize it).
Mark my words, when you read or witness an event of unimaginable corruption, cruelty and senselessness, you are looking at the handiwork of the brain-damaged psychopath. Note that this handiwork is not confined to their longtime servant bankers, lawyers, etc., but often involves the use of one or more patsies who go in and do the deed that furthers their bloody agenda.
The fact that things are getting worse and fast confirms one of the hallmarks of the nature of their evil: psychopathy is permanent, irreparable and progressive. It gets worse with age. The sad fact of the matter is that there are a bunch of nasty, old men and women pulling levers and strings to make the world dance to their sick song.
The following essay is part of the antidote. Hats off to Mr Smith for writing it.
All battles, all wars, all fistfights and bar brawls, all conflicts in every place and in every time (except those conflicts in which both sides answer to the same puppeteer) begin and end as battles of the mind. No struggle is determined on strength of arms alone. In fact, the technologically advanced adversary with all his fancy firepower is often more vulnerable than his low-tech counterparts. This fact is, of course, counterintuitive to our Western manner of thinking, which teaches us to believe that the man with the bigger gun (or the bigger predator drone) always wins. Sadly, we have had to suffer through multiple defeats and overdrawn occupations in Asia to learn otherwise. One of the great unspoken truths of our era is the reality that the modernization of warfare has changed little the manner in which wars are won. Since the beginning of history, intelligence, force of will, and guiding principles are the dominant factors in any campaign.
Read more here.
Do Not Fear Hypothetical Dangers
Do Not Be Distracted By Minor Inconveniences And Personal Problems
Do Not Be Seduced By Gifts
Never Trust The Media Machine – Always Verify Information
Do Not Concern Yourself With Ridicule
Accept The Risk Before Confronting The Enemy
Understand Your Own Weaknesses
Do Not Buy Into Petty Authority
Acknowledge The Power Of Symbolism And Myth
Never Forget Your Individualism
Mind Over Matter
Read, watch and learn while you can. It is late in the game.
Anna Moss
Founder, Wiser Now
Author, RELATIONSHIP RED FLAGS
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A psychiatrist speaks out
December 20, 2012
A Psychiatrist Speaks Out: None of These Children Had to Die
Drunk driving is not about cars, rape is not about penises, mass shootings are not about guns.
The theme of mass shootings has been revealed as “the love of money is the root of all evil” otherwise known as the modern medicine racket.
The Greek roots of our words pharmacy and pharmaceutical are pharmakon and pharmakuein; they mean “to practice witchcraft” and “poison” respectively.
The real discussion that needs to occur now is about criminal and immoral use of psychiatric drugs.
This is a planetary wake up call.
The following was written by Rima E Laibow, MD:
I have treated “Adam Lanza” male and female, young and old, for decades.
I am a Child, Adolescent and Adult Psychiatrist. I did my psychiatric residency at Lincoln Hospital and, along with my child psychology residency, also at St. Luke’s Hospital of Columbia University.
I have worked with Autistic people of all ages, the Asberger’s Syndrome people, Schrizophrenic people, BiPolar people, Multiple Personality Disorder people, OCD, ADD, ADHD and pretty much every other type of labeled person in my 42+ year career since graduating from the Albert Einstein College of Medicine in New York City.
And I have never written a prescription for a psychiatric drug. Or any other type of drug, for that matter.
I have, while serving as the Acting Director for a Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Ward of a large hospital not very far from Newtown, looked at the drugged, disoriented, drooling and dangerous children in my care ranging from age 4 to 16 and taken ALL of them off all psychiatric medication, weaning them carefully, of course, because I simply could not tell what we were dealing with other than drug-damaged brains and bodies of the young and very young kids I had under my care.
The nurses told me I could not do that because they could not contain the children. I asked them how they knew that since the children who were violent, homicidal and suicidal were ALL on drugs known to make them violent, homicidal and suicidal.
They told me that I could not do that and that they would go to the union to prevent me from taking the kids off their meds. I replied that the meds were not the kids’ meds. They were the staff’s meds since they kept the staff comfortable and feeling safe.
They went to the union. I had my physician’s license in CT, a union card that trumped theirs.
The 4 year old on 11 different psychiatric medications who was toe-walking (a sign of neurological damage) and who wanted to die stopped drooling and spinning around in circles when she came off the meds.
I was the first person to ask why she had plunged a knife into Mommy’s boyfriend’s leg when he was asleep. She told me “He was hurting me down there [pointing to her vagina] every night and Mommy would not stop him”.
When the event occurred, she was medicated without a single person taking a moment to ask why the act had taken place.
You see, I am old enough to have learned my craft BEFORE the advent of untested, highly profitable, and totally unconscionable psychiatric drugs.
I read the literature on these neurological poisons and saw that long-term studies were absent, that the pediatric studies were absent and that the advertising-supported “impartial” journals were nothing more than paper prostitutes all dressed up in glossy ads.
I watched in horror as younger and younger children were placed on stronger and stronger drugs for less and less indication (although, admittedly, in my mind there is no justification for the use of any psychiatric drug).
- I learned ortho-molecular medicine and psychiatry. That works.
- I learned how to listen and move people toward emotional health. That works too.
- I learned how to employ NeuroBioFeedback to teach the brain how to regulate itself and the body in harmony with its capacity and needs. That works fantastically well.
- I learned how to use frequency medicine, homeopathy, herbal medicine, intravenous nutrition and a variety of other modalities which actually support healing. They work.
- I learned how to use nutrition, diet and detoxification, for which I studied Environmental Medicine. That works.
What does not work is drugging the brain with toxins which create the very symptoms for which the drugs are given in the first place.
I have met and held “Adam Lanza’s” mother in my arms as she wept in fear and exhausted despair. And I have held her in my arms as she wept for the joy of having her child clear eyed and of sound mind not in moments of quick hope, but continually and consistently.
I have held “Adam Lanza’s” mother’s hand in court as we pressured his school to give him the education he needed, not the one that they made money on from destructive State subsidies for the correct diagnosis and another drugged kid.
I have sat with “Adam’s” brothers and sisters helping them to undo the trauma that Adam-on-drugs has brought to their lives.
“Adam Lanza” and I have spent hours together as he climbed out of the pit of his own psychosis, without drugs, confinement or violence, but not necessarily smoothly, either.
And I have attended the funeral of more than one “Adam Lanza” whose family pressured his mom, or whose divorced parent pressured the custodial parent through the Court, to put “Adam” on drugs – and then did not even have the good grace or decency to accept responsibility for his death.
We Know of Absolutely NO Chemical Imbalance to Account for Mental and Emotional Illness
We know that genes are disrupted so function is distorted by a host of causes, chief among which are heavy metals like mercury and industrial poisons like formaldehyde, fluoride and foreign DNA and proteins which call forth an auto immune reaction and cause neurological disruption.
This is a type of expression of a larger cause of disability I have called “Genome Disruption Syndrome” or GDS (www.GDS-Therapy.com). It, not a psuedo-science “genetic drift”, accounts for the changes in the human genome which are linked to increased cancer rates, autism, increased diabetes rates and the other chronic, degenerative diseases which were virtually unknown in our grandparents and parents childhoods. The genome is the same. The genomic disruption is by no means the same.
Adam was, according to his uncle, being “treated” with Fantapt, a novel, and highly dangerous anti-psychotic previously rejected by the FDA for its high side effect profile, including aggression and psychosis.*
But he was also vaccinated. So this Adam Lanza was toxic with thimerosol (49.6% mercury by weight), formaldehyde, fluoride, MSG, foreign DNA, diploid cells, foreign protein, Polysorbate 80 (or “TWEEN”) and other systemic toxins injected into his body regardless of their toxicity and regardless of his ability to remove them from his body.
Adam was Neurotoxic — a Victim of Genome Disruption
His mother, I must also presume, had no intent to harm him when she allowed his genome to be repeatedly overwhelmed with unnecessary and dangerous vaccines and then, similarly, with dangerous and unnecessary psychiatric medications. No, I am sure that she followed the perhaps-well-intentioned advice of experts who themselves have suspended their capacity to evaluate data and instead rely on the herds belief that since it is said so often, the safety and efficacy of the drugs and vaccines purveyed so beautifully in the journals and ads, seminars and trainings must be safe and effective.
They are neither and the “Adam Lanzas” and their mothers, sisters, brothers, fathers, neighbors and, today, his grieving neighbors in Newton can testify to that.
There is a time to say NO. That time has arrived.
No to psychiatric drugs. There is ALWAYS a better way.
More than half of the people who kill themselves are on psychiatric drugs.
No to vaccines. There could not be a worse way.
Virtually every modern outbreak and epidemic takes place in the fully vaccinated, to which the vaccine pusher’s retort is, “Well, give people more vaccine doses since 2 (or 3, or 4 or more) did not work. Call them boosters!” I call them Genome Disruption.
No to GMOs which are likewise altering our very genome.
Psychiatric Drugs Kill Those Who Take Them and Those They Turn On
They are unnecessary and dangerous, but oh, so profitable.
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